Episode 6: Discipline

Hello! Welcome to this episode of Rich People's Business podcast! Here we discusses the importance of self-discipline for personal growth and success. We go through various types of discipline and the need to remove negative cues and create positive cues. Listen into all the discipline tips you'll need!

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Welcome to Rich People's Business podcast with host Dana Haley and Reggie Ballet. Your number one source for business advice, tips and tricks from building multimillion dollar companies to selling out comedy clubs. They're gonna teach you how to get rich and stay rich.

Hi, everybody. I'm Dana Haley. Welcome to Rich People's Business podcast with my favorite cousin Reginald Valerie. Hi. Today we are going to talk about discipline, self-discipline because there is a difference. This is something that is a struggle of mine, but it is near and dear to my heart because I think we need to constantly evolve and get better.

So I don't think you have a problem with self discipline.

I think you're pretty disciplined. It just maybe, you know, getting ready and being on time can be a little. I think that's, that's your only setback when it comes to this one. That's it.

I love how you look. I love how you look at me. You make me feel better about what my weakness is. But I think that's one thing I, I think that I love about this podcast is that things that we really want to learn about and we want to know about too and we want to improve on, we can bring that and put it and put it in front of a discussion forum and have fun discussing it, but also learning.

So I, and I think the biggest part of, of the why for this podcast too is we want to bring topics that some of us may struggle with. Definitely, I struggle with a number of things and I'm always wanting to evolve and get better. And self-discipline is one that is up and down for me, it plays a part in our lives in many ways. But we have to keep evolving and getting better.

Yeah, because, you know, I think discipline comes in, it, it's real tough for people because, you know, when you know what you have to do, you know, different types of discipline. But when you know what you have to do and you do it, but then you have that type when you know what you're supposed to do.

But you say, well, I'll do it tomorrow and they say, you know, 365 days and passed and you still trying to do what you were supposed to do a year ago, a year ago, you know what it is so true.

My mom, my mom has this saying and I love it. She said, if you're not learning and you're not evolving, you might as well be dead because until you die you have to have a purpose and life is about being disciplined. It's about getting up and having a purpose every, every day. And, but having a plan for that, for that day, having a plan for that year, maybe some of us are not driven to have a

plan for a year, but just kind of an outline. What am I trying to accomplish within this year? It really does help, to have those intentions so that we have a plan to implement.

Yes, because if you don't have a plan, I mean, when you wake up first thing in the morning, you should make up your bed because that's the first chore of the first art of business that you should do. Because when you go to bed and you wake up, that's your first plan. Ok? Look, I gotta get up, make up my bed wash, take care of myself and then go and do what you're supposed to do.

That's the first step of discipline. You know, like you said, a journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step and that's that single step up to start your day. You know, I like that.

I like that a lot and I think they say your home is your, your home is your sanctuary. So you have to keep that foundation strong. And I think that's what you mean when you say make your bed because that's something I learned a long time ago.

That I have to practice on a daily basis because I think it sets the stage for the intention for the rest of the day and, and, and, and, you know, I think, I think the best people that practice self-discipline that you can actually see the results are people that are in sports.

You know, because, oh, yeah, because you, you, you look at a Muhammad Ali or, Alison Felix, you know, those, it's like discipline of getting up early in the morning, going work out. You know, not going to the clubs, not partying, not eating junk food.

That's self-discipline right there. Just those may be the things. It, it, it's, it's just imagine you say I wanna lose weight. All you have to do is stop eating the wrong thing. It's not like you gotta go outside and dig ditches and be in the sun.

It's like just stop doing this and then, and, and, and then you will meet, you will meet your goal.

But I think people, there's a sensation, I read somewhere where somewhere recently where it said there's a sensation sometimes people, it's the QE, they see it like, OK, the donut, they already have the sensation in their, in their mind and so they want fulfill the sensation. And so that's where a lot of people fall off the wagon, so to speak and don't, and don't really fulfill the goal.

So, you know, I, I, and I think removing those removing things. II I only drink water if you come to my house right now, people get mad because I already know me if it's in my house, I'm going, I'm going to part. So the water, the water is, is AAA staple in my house. No sugary drinks. No complex carbs just because I want to be, I wanna be healthy. I wanna grow age gracefully. I wanna age strong. I want my mind to be strong.

And so I try, I work to remove those things. Do I fall off the wagon? Yes, I do. You walk into my house is, is, you know, because they say that having that, that willpower only lasts for so long. You gotta make sure that you take things that are in your space that will cause you to fall, you gotta make sure it's removed from you. It's removed from your life as much as possible.

Yeah, because one thing you can't do, you can't lie to yourself. I mean, whatever you put yourself through it. No cheating. You know yourself. If you know you need to do something and if you take a short cut and you don't, you know, accomplish your goals, you can't lie to yourself and say, well, I did everything I was supposed to do because yourself will tell you no, you didn't.

But you know what they say. It's harder for people to put the mirror up and to really see what the truth is about themselves to understand how they come off to other people because discipline is the mouth too. It's how you react to it, to others. It's, you know, it's many different things and so that discipline in your life, but it starts with that honesty. It's hard, it's hard for a lot of people.

Yes. You know, sometimes, you know, I know when I have auditions, sometimes it's a big, maybe four or five pages that I have to learn. I lay down in the bed, I go to sleep. I get tired after I did it. And then I think about something else, you know, I should do this, I should do this instead of me saying I do it in the morning. You know, I know my audition is sometimes the next day. So what I would do, I would get up and go over that again and make sure I have it down because, you know, that's the

kind of self-discipline I have, you know, doing something that I love to do. Sometimes you, you have self-discipline, you know, doing what you love to do. Your self-discipline become, I think that much more stronger than self-discipline doing something somebody else wants you to do. You know, somebody going to, somebody else's job, going to somebody else. You know what I mean?

That I think that is key.

It is really understanding and doing what makes you happy because you're gonna do it with a different, with a different pep in your step. There's three types of 23 types of discipline. There's active discipline, reactive discipline, and then there's proactive, that active discipline is doing what, you know, doing what, you know, you gotta do in the moment, eating, eating properly.

That reactive discipline is, you know, you get, you get a flat tire or something happen, it's controlling those emotions in that moment. Somebody come up to you while and out, you got to control yourself and then you, and that proactive, that proactive is the hard core because that's, that's that holding that mirror up and knowing these are the things that I have to do to be successful or to be the person that I want to be to give to the world the way that I want to give myself to the

world. That is the harder part. And that's where you're putting those cues. Like, you know, you know, you want to go to the gym, put in those, put in those shoes in the car where you can see them, you know that you, you have to, you want to eat well, OK, putting that bowl of fruit in your, in your view before I leave.

Because I have ad d I have, I have really learned to discipline myself. I have notes on the door, cut the ac off, cut the lights off. I know me. And so whatever it takes to get you to doing the things that you need to do, you have to do that. You know, I'm, I'm a visual person so visibly I have to see it.

See that, that, that's, you know, I have no super. That's, that's because I forget things. That's me too. I ain't got no discipline for me. I was like, I forgot to do this man. I gotta take the trash out the bar, this trash.

That's my life too. That's, and I run my, and I, and I run my life, you know, as a single person. So it's even harder. I have more, more responsibilities. And so I have to find ways to run my life as early as possible and have those cues on point. You know, I think in the morning you get up, you meditate. I read a long time ago that Steve jobs and a lot of really successful leaders, they can self assess and self correct.

Everybody can't do it because people, I'm fabulous. I'm this, I'm that and I'm good, you know, or they just move through life and with no set plan, it's every day, it's whatever happens.

But you look at those people and that is, that's not always, it doesn't always bear fruit of success, but do tell me I am asking this question, you know, the three types of discipline.

All three could be, all three could be helpful though. You, you think all three, all three situation in certain situation, I mean, you know, sometimes you do have to do something right at the moment. You know what I mean? And sometimes you have to do the, you know, be proactive, sometimes you have to do the other. It's, it's, you know, as long as you have some kind of discipline and not chaos in your life.

When you have chaos you're just all over the place. I mean, you won't be successful in anything business, athletics, whatever it may be, you know, because you chaotic and you, you, your life just going, you know, I take care of tomorrow. You know, I don't worry about what the day I do, I take care of tomorrow. You know, I, but you know, tomorrow like like Apollo creed say there is no tomorrow.

That is, that's very, very true. But I think we have to be very, very like clear on what a positive cue is. And then what I feel like in, you know, positive q indirect QE that positive QE is that QE where you say definitively, I'm going to go work out Monday through Monday, Wednesday, Friday at five o'clock or that indirect queue, which I think is a silent killer.

I'm gonna get groceries this week or I'm gonna work out this week, but you don't set, you don't set the time and then definitively stick with that time. It just, there's so many of your friend calls you on the phone and there's so many different ways where you can, with that indirect queue, where you can talk yourself out of doing what you know, that, that you need to do.

So I think, you know, to, to what you were saying about the, the proactive reactive, you know, those three, the, the three the active Q if you use any of them, you can use all of them in the wrong way. That reactive, you know that, that, you know, you something happens, you your, your hot temper, you know, uses comes, comes a spark. You know, there's just ways that you can then teach yourself to calm down.

But that's that meditation, that's, you know, Steve Jobs. you know, Bill gates them waking up and really spending that time to Z out, even if it's 10 minutes, you know, not looking at your phone, not looking at what you have to do, but just spending that time with yourself. Then once you get yourself settled, you, you know, you have your time where you are, you know, in the moment in the morning where you're spending time with

yourself, then you sit there and you really, really, really pay attention to what your day is gonna be like, you emails, that kind of thing. So I think that's really important.

Yes. Yes. And because that first step is the most important thing that you could do. It's just like going to the gym when you step outside your house. And you step inside the gym, once you close that door, you're gonna do what you're supposed to do. But that first step is getting the help and that's where the discipline comes in. It's like, hey, man, I got to get up and go get it. Yeah. And I, you know, I, I used to be the most disciplined person, I think on the planet when I was in high school

playing football college, then, you know, I got to a place where I wanted to be and I got complacent. Like, you know, it's not like you're trying to go further. It's like, ok, I'm where I, where I wanna be, I'm comfortable. I'm doing what I love to do, but there's a lot more that I want to do now. I have to redo that discipline all over again. And it seemed like the more you, you, you let it go, the harder it is to get back to get it back.

I'm so glad that you said that because I think for me right now that's what I struggle with, you know, the burnout and sometimes because it is complacency sometimes where you're like, ok, I'm comfortable. But then there are those times where I've been, I've gone so hard for so long that now I'm just, I just want, but here's the thing that I think happens to and people don't really realize it is even, that becomes part of our norm and we don't realize we're doing it and then we are

sitting there and time has passed and we have not rejuvenated and reset and, and, you know, and, and gotten, you know, those, those juices flowing to restart to be great again. I think we all fall that it's just ebb, ebb and flow. It's just how it goes. But haven, knowing it, I think that's that mirror and that being honest, we were talking about, a friend and a friend and myself were talking about that today about how, you know, she asked herself, hey, how do I know when I'm falling

short? What is that? What is that thing inside of me? How do I feel? What's going on? What's going on around me? Who are the people around me? Are they setting me up to have, you know, positive intentions in my life? You know, that's also very important who we surround ourselves with and just, you know, just everything in our life, that intention for, for, for everything we touch, everything that comes out of our mouth. You know, I was saying today I woke up and II I gravitated towards

something very spiritual because I've been asking myself, hey, am I for me? Am I in the world or am I in the world for me? I'm more peaceful when I'm in, when I'm in the word. And so I had to ask myself that this morning and do a few things to help me be a little bit more grounded today. But I think you have to know where you, when you feel it, you have to know what you feel like when, when you're not doing what you need to do. That's right.

And you know, the most important thing you said all that was complacency. I know my son, you know, he's a marine. He said they, they taught the marines that complacency kills if you complacent become stagnant, you know, don't practice discipline. Next thing, you know, one thing for sure what you want to accomplish will never happen.

That and, and that's what I'm always afraid of because I've always been the person and you won't outwork me. But there are times where when you take on so much, that's the other thing you have to be careful of when you take on so much, just really getting beat down because you got to take care of yourself. And I think that's where if you gonna pull whatever you pull out, you know, you buy something new, you should take something out of the closet, whatever you and this is just my own thing.

If I eat something that I know I really shouldn't. You don't really wanna, don't really want to eat because I'm trying to eat healthy, I'll make sure whatever I'm taking, putting, taking out of my body, I put back in, I replenish. So, you know, if I eat that, if I eat that croissant, I'm gonna be eating that apple later.

I don't know about the closet thing because I, I'm a, if I bring something new, I'm just gonna scoop the old over.

See, that's a, that's a problem because you want, this is a thing. It could be a problem in different, in different instances just because you wanna clear. You wanna keep your, you know, you wanna keep the clutter clear but I'm with you, you know, I'm, I'm, I'm with you sometimes but that might not be the thing that you wanna work on. But whatever that thing is where, you know, you want to purge, you know, you don't want to be too, too complacent you don't want because it's so crazy.

I see sometimes my house, there'll be things stacked in the corner and the thing that's stacked in the corner, I've been wanting to get rid of it. Two months, time goes by, time goes by, I don't even see it anymore. Do you know what I mean? Because it, because it has become a part of the room. But I think that is, if I can, if I can make the parallel, I think it has to do with so many other things in our lives.

It does it like bad people, you know, you, you, you around them so long you don't even know that they are bad people anymore, you know, dragging you down.

Oh, a 100%.

And I think that's where the problem comes in. So we got to continue to hold that mirror up and ask and ask ourselves these really important questions on a regular. How do we keep, how do we keep discipline at self discipline at the cornerstone of our lives?

Because it's so important if you, if you had, you know, a specific time that you could think of where maybe, you know, it could have cost you everything or it could have cost you something big where you weren't as intentional or as, as self-discipline.

Is there any one thing or one time that you could think of that caused me not to get what I yeah, or could have caused it but you, you caught yourself.

Yes. Yes. I probably wouldn't be sitting here talking to you right now if it wasn't for my first audition in college when I went to, I had to audition for this play called A Soldiers play and I was scared to death and I was walking and it was like, it was like my body was moving in the direction of the audition, but my mind was somewhere else and my whole body just felt like all the energy and the lactic acid was building up that every move that I took.

I wanted to turn around. And if I have turned around and I go to the audition, I probably wouldn't be here right now. But I was like, you know what, this is what I wanna do and I said I was gonna do it. And right after football practice, I just started walking toward that, that, that, that audition to the theater because I was theater major. So I was walking to our theater company and I was like, man, this is crazy, crazy, crazy.

Then when I went in, but if I didn't change, it changed my whole life.

Yes. Yes. Changed my whole life.

Yeah, I have a similar situation when I first imposter syndrome is a real thing. When I first decided to start my business. There's the, there's this trade show where, where all these manufacturers or Corporates as they call them Honda Boeing, they, they in one place, they have tables set up and you go and you pitch your business. And so I had, you know, the opportunity to, to go and pitch my business and I walked through the room and I thought they're gonna know, I don't belong here.

I had one suit, the only suit I had and I walked in and I was, you know, I pitched the business and the first eight months, 100,000, I made $100,000. But it was hard walking up to that table asking somebody to see me. You know, I am introvert, extrovert. So, you know, it is a little bit harder sometimes I, I love people. So I love to talk to people and share.

But when it comes to asking somebody to validate. Oh, see me, especially back and when I was, when I was much younger it was rough. So you have to do things afraid. But that is also a level of discipline and, and staying with that too when you are, when you are growing a business you have to be disciplined. Practice in the mirror.

You know, you have to do things. There's, it, it mean discipline, self-discipline comes in so many different ways. It's not weighing it. It's knowing that you, you, you belong and then being able to articulate how you belong. but I think that goes from being centered just really knowing who you, who you are.

But if you didn't do that, just think you wouldn't be sitting in one of your three houses right now. That is, there you go. There you go. You did what you had to do. Water. Like Bruce Lee said water, be water. My friend. You put water in the cup, it becomes a cup, you put it in the, in the teapot, it becomes a teapot. Water can flow and it could crash, be water. My friend. I love that. I love that, adapt to any situation that you have to adapt, to be disciplined enough to adapt to any situation.

So, yeah, and I, and I couldn't have said it better. I mean, you know, the changes, changes are necessary, things are going to come. I think I read somewhere. 77 habits of highly effective people. I, I believe it said somewhere where if people would really understand that life happens, there's going to be so many things that come at you quickly and you have to discipline yourself to react a certain way.

But to understand that life is a bunch of challenges. If you looked at it in that way where it's just the day to day life, then it wouldn't upset you as much. It wouldn't, you know, it wouldn't jar you as much. You would be able to, ok, I got this and blow it out. How am I going to assess? And then how am I going to, to move forward to fix this issue?

That's why you say you put it in the cup, it becomes the cup, put it in the, whatever you put water in, it's gonna become that. So it's like whatever life comes, whatever way life comes at you, you know, you have to adapt to it. You can't just sit back and, and just let it, you know, because I tell that storms don't come. But when it comes, you look that storm right in the eyes and you say do your worst for, I'm prepared to do mine.

And you take that seven breaths and you push through to the other side because how many times do you, I, I always hate when people say, you know, oh, I just waiting for the shoe to drop, you know, everything is so good.

Everything is so good. You know, it's just enjoy when you have those moments where there's, it's just peaceful and calm but know that when that storm comes because then when people, sometimes people go, I knew it was too good to be true. Yeah. But no, it's just life happening.

We make what, what happens to us, we make that happen. Yeah. Come out of the blue. This happened because no, you made it happen man.

But some well, but sometimes there are things, you know, sometimes there are those things where you know, life, life happens, parents get sick or you know, there are some things but if we, but if we say, hey, this is a part of life, you know, it's, it's not that it's happening to just us.

It's just, it's happening in different ways to, to other people but you still have to deal with it, whatever, whatever, whatever it throws at you, you're gonna have to deal with it eventually.

I mean, yeah, you're gonna deal with it however you deal with it, you're gonna have to deal with it. I mean, if you, if you choose a positive, you know, step then that's positive for everybody. But if you go to negative route and just curl up in a shell and just say I don't want to deal with anything no more, then it's just gonna make it worse.

Yes, because that, that and that kind of that victim syndrome where you, you know, and there are a lot of people that live in it because they've been punched so much and they're not as willing or as able or they don't feel like they can get up and fight. But you find, you find your place, you find your peace and you live in that peace and, I think it's self-discipline for sure. Self-discipline.

Self discipline. Yeah. I think I'm, I, yeah, you have to have, if you don't have Seth demon, you have anything because if you, if you just walking around life thinking that you know, everything, all your things that happen, opportunities are gonna fall out the sky like Robert Harris said, you know, opportunity gonna knock. Bye bye bye on your door. Who is it job?

It definitely does not have that money, cars, you know, you know, it doesn't happen like that you make you make it happen, but it's also energy I believe in energy, right? It's that whatever you put out, yes, whatever you put out. But if you put out negative you going. Yeah. So yes, thank you so much for joining us, find us Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, youtube, Ta Ta Rich People's Business Podcast. That's right with Damon tiktok is, is Rich People's Business Biz at the end.

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